What Caused your Life changing decisions!

How did the life changing decisions come about in your life?

Most of us would like to see the future and know what was about to happen.
Maybe we can all learn from the experience of others.
Here’s a “long” summary of mine.
Sorry it’s so long, but I am OLD in years but young at heart.

When I was a young teenager, about half a century ago, I was not sure what I wanted to do with my life?

When I spoke to my parents, and their friends and others I respected, I believed I would get some direction and good advice. Mostly they advised me to get a government job, keep my nose clean and retire at age 65. Then I could live happily ever after.

You will probably have had a similar conversation if you were brought up in the 60’s and early 70’s. Back then I was 17 and just out of school, I could actually imagine getting that wonderful job I would enjoy all of my working life.

So this was the way my thinking was colored as I moved through my teenage years into early adulthood.

When I started looking for that perfect JOB, they were relatively easy to find. My dream job was to become an Air Traffic Controller. I even got a Private Pilots License to give me a better chance of success. Went through a rigorous selection process, several interviews, psychological tests, and a medical. Passed everything until I got to the color blindness test.

Never knew I was red-green color blind until that day. This was the end of my dreams of becoming an Air Traffic Controller. As a consellation prize the recruiters offered me a job in the Department Of Civil Aviation.

There really should be an “Oh, how things change!” in here.

Not having any back-up plan, I ended up by default in the Australian Commonwealth Government in a pretty cushy position of Contracts Officer. It paid well, so I thought, as I had nothing to compare it with apart from a couple of part-time jobs working in my dad’s garages.

Oh how things change!

I got married. We had two incomes, so we now had more money.

However, there were also more demands on that money, I had 2 mouths to feed, rent to pay on an apartment, we needed a second car and we had to save to buy a house. Very quickly we found we needed more money,
I started another part-time job. That was three incomes.

With the thinking I had instilled into me, I was supposed to accept our situation and just keep working hard and eventually everything would turn out okay.

Well it didn’t work out okay. The house we could afford was not in the area we wanted, but in an area our incomes could afford. The schools weren’t what we wanted, the only positive here was we wouldn’t have high school fees. It wasn’t close to our parents or our friends. This exercise of getting the wrong house took 3 years.

Oh how things change!

Soon we had three mouths to feed, then 4, then 5 and finally 6.

Australian type food.

We decided to put a stop to the family expansion.

Well the “job” in fact any job, just wasn’t going to be the forever income for our growing family. I still had a second job but we needed to do something different.

Our real search for an income and the lifestyle we dreamed of, had now begun.

Firstly it was MLM, and that lasted for many years. It gave us a respectable income, but we needed more. So I went out and got another JOB, selling on commission only. I went from one sales job to another looking for the “right” job, thinking it would be like the ideal government job. It became clear, I needed to work for myself to create a future for my family. It had to be a business of our own, where the income would eventually come from residual sales.

There were lots of positions offering the possibility of a residual income. I sold insurance, personal development programs, investment programs, real estate investment programs; you name it, I probably sold it. Not bad for a Contracts Officer.

This did give us a better lifestyle. We travelled overseas many times, had nice cars, moved house to an upscale suburb on the opposite side of town, sent the kids to a private college. This was over a period of about 20 years. It was a lot of hard work and we could never seem to relax. Lots of weekend work and many nights not at home. So maybe calling it a good lifestyle was not exactly true.

Oh how things change!

Then the internet was born, but it was very new. I liked the concept and bought one of the very first Apple Computers thinking this was the way of the future.

I even tried building a computer, not even understanding it needed special “software” to run the thing. We were still looking for the business that would put us on easy street. I was always trying something new that might work.

We now had two businesses rather than two jobs. All that meant was we worked a lot harder, and a lot longer.

Eventually it put a strain on our marriage which caused more financial problems and that finally led to divorce.

Oh how things change!

Our MLM business was still going and that did help with the finances. It also occurred to me that even after a few years with very little effort it still produced an income. With the divorce so went the MLM business.

I wanted to find a way to get an income that would go on forever, because some day I would have to stop working.. That day was getting closer and closer.

The computer seemed to be the answer. Not understanding how to make money online, one day while playing around, I met a lady online. Her name was Michelle and she only lived 10,098 miles away.

We typed conversations (no video back then) for about 6 months and eventually I went to meet her. Did I mention I was an Australian and Michelle lived in Florida?

In just a week Michelle and I decided we would come back and live together in Australia.

Oh how things change!

I still had my job as a sales manager for a Real Estate Investment company and had quite a respectable income. It was commission only.

We got married, bought a beautiful Great Dane Puppy who we called Abbey, and life was good for a few years. Then one day we got a call from Michelle’s mum. She had some serious challenges and needed us to come home to Pennsylvania to look after her. We sold up most of what we had accumulated including a Mercedes that I really loved, packed up everything else and shipped it to America. When we got to California, Abbey had such a bad trip on the plane; we hired a car in Los Angeles and drove the rest of the way to Pennsylvania.

Oh how things change!

Can you see any pattern in my story?
Lots of plans, lots of dreams, that don’t go the way you expect.

How much control do we actually have over our lives.

If you look at your life, have you had similar things happen to you?

Things that take you away from your dreams and aspirations.

As a Contracts Officer, did I ever for one moment think I would eventually be living in America, with a wife that came from Florida?

Oh how things change!

Where we live in Pennsylvania, there is no Investment Real Estate opportunities to make money.

Michelle and her Mum had always wanted a thrift store.

So Everybody’s Store was born.

Michelle & I built this store from scratch. We ran the business for 9 years and never bought any stock. We gave back to the community and in turn they supported us with their purchases and donations.

 

Oh how things change!

Four years after we arrived in America, we lost Michelle’s mum. This resulted in a 2 year Court Case. A very traumatic time in our lives.

There were a couple of other jobs with relatively good income, and it was at this point I started to look at the computer again.

I found affiliate marketing, but didn’t have a clue on how to even get started. The idea of running a computer business died.

Oh how things change!

I was born with a bicuspid heart valve and In 2013, I needed a heart valve replacement, a new aortic valve, a new ascending aorta and three bypasses to put it all together. After that I had 2 strokes which thankfully had no lasting effects and then 2 years ago I was diagnosed with Cancer. I’ll post about this cancer at a later time as it has been life changing for us. I have not had Chemo, Surgery or Radiation, all the treatment has been done with diet. This is a message I do want to pass on as it can help save countless lives.

Oh how things change!

Between 2013 and 2015 we got involved with a number of affiliate marketing groups that cost us several thousand dollars for the experience. The only one that didn’t cost anything was Wealthy Affiliates. But we knew anything that is free wouldn’t be any good. So we disregarded it.

Back to searching for a job. Tried several but couldn’t find anything with a residual income,

only jobs that paid just enough to keep the wolf from the door.
Now it is August 2018, and back to the computer, we came across Wealthy Affiliates. We thought we’d better sign up and give it a try since it was free.
To our surprise we were ALREADY members, and had been since June 2015.

We’re here today to tell you how great this business is.
WA waited for us to catch up.

To see why we are so passionate about Wealthy Affiliates follow this link, become a free member and take a look at what you get for free.

Your personal journey will be incredible.

Rob & Michelle

3 Replies to “What Caused your Life changing decisions!”

  1. Dear Michelle and Robert! 

    Robert, you described your life with appealing clarity. It seems to me that I was next to you. 

    Although I lived on another part of the globe. Indeed, what surprises life presents and how interesting it is to go through trials with optimism. See, you and I are about the same age. 

    I also anchored in the Wealthy Affiliate just four months ago. It is inconvenient for me to ask many questions to such a sincere person. Just why didn’t you check your vision for color blindness earlier ?. 

    Thank you for your trust and success to you.

  2. Hello Robert. Thanks for sharing these awesome insights on “A Reflection on What Caused your Life changing decisions”. A beautiful dream ruined by colour blindness.

    Anyways the birth of the internet and the world wide web is indeed a great stuff that happened to us. Thanks for sharing your story with us and great recommendation. Wealthy Affiliate is definitely the way to go if one needs digital marketing training and support.

    Cheers!

    1. Thanks for your comment, It may have been a beautiful dream, but I believe that things happen for a reason. Without that dream I would not have eventually met and married Michelle

      Many times I’m not sure what that reason is.

      Rob & Michelle

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